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Watch Your Words: The Subtle Shift from Suffering to Superbloom

Chloe Bennett Season 1 Episode 5

In this episode, we explore how the language we use affects our perception, beliefs, and reality, drawing on examples from those of everyday scenarios as well as research like that of Dr. Masaru Emoto's water experiments. 

This episode is an invitation to become mindful of common phrases that might be limiting you. I'll share practical tips on how to swap these limiting words and phrases for more expansive and empowering ones. We don’t shy away from deep-seated phrases so that you can be invited to challenge defeatist beliefs and embrace more honest and vulnerable language. 

We Cover:

  • The Power of Words and Their Impact
  • Common Misused Words and Their Effects
  • The Impact of Defeat and Avoidance
  • Shifting Perspectives on Unchangeable Situations
  • Swapping Suffering for the Super Bloom
  • Practical Language Swaps for Positive Change


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Welcome back to the podcast. I am very. IGA to have this conversation with you today. It is one that I've been having a lot. With clients in my personal life and just in so many different spaces. So it's something that I really wanted to bring to the podcast and bring to you. Now today, we're going to be talking all about. The power of words. The fact that your words have wings where you might be tripping yourself up in the choice of words that you are speaking to yourself, that you are speaking to others, that you are speaking your vision into existence with. And we are going to dive into. You know, words, you can words and phrases that you can switch them out for that. Are much more effective, much more empowering and have a much higher vibration. Now let's speak in with the reality that our words have wings. Our words carry a vibration. And that vibration impacts frequency of, the world around us. Now there have been studies done by Dr. Masaru. Emoto hopefully I pronounced that correctly. A Japanese scientist. And he showed that the effects of that words can have on the structure of water molecules, which was really cool. And if you Google it, you'll be able to find the visual of this. And it is just incredible. I have also seen this done in many other scenarios. Common ones that you might've heard about are with rice. And also with flowers of being able to literally see when you speak certain words into, you know, things, water. Rice flowers. The effects that that tends to have. So if you're curious, I invite you to go and have a little bit of a search, go down, maybe a little bit of a rabbit hole, because it is incredibly fascinating. Now, when it comes to the language and the words and the phrases we use, we're often taught to watch our words when it comes to things like profanities, you know, swear words, all of that sort of stuff. And it's actually not those words that have the greatest impact. It's the words that seem insignificant or the ones that have the greatest impact. And we're going to dive into the most common ones that I see come up. And used without the deepest sense of awareness of the impact. I'm going to share those with you now. I wonder for you to write before we go any further, the way that we speak to ourselves as individuals matters so much. And I know this might sound obvious yet. I really invite you throughout this conversation. And, you know, after listening to this episode, and as you go about your life. to really tune in and observe the way that you speak to yourself about yourself, to others. The way that you speak about your vision. For life or if it's in business really pay attention and just observe yourself without judgment like this, isn't a time to judge yourself or shame yourself for, you know, choosing words that maybe don't serve you as much as something else. This is just a time to get really curious, because without curiosity, we fail to build awareness and without awareness, we fail to create change. So. That's that invitation for you there now. I often like to say that words are either a vote for your suffering. Or you're super bloom. So the words that you choose are either casting a vote for suffering for, you know, feeling like you're pushing shit uphill for, for spur strain, for misalignment or for your super bloom. Life in full bloom life. That feels so good where you feel nurtured, nourished, vibrant, well, excited creative tapped in turned on all of the things, right. So when it comes to the words we choose, I'm now going to share with you some of the most common ones that I see come up and we're going to go into a little bit of descriptive. Exploration with some of them. So the first one being lose this release. Now the greatest example I have of this, and I think it illustrates it really well. Is. Whenever people speak about wanting to, you know, in quotation marks, lose weight. It's interesting to listen to that phrase, right. That you want to lose weight? Because by using the word lose. You're essentially saying that whatever it is that you're associating with that word, however you're using the word lose. You're using it in relation to something that you want back. So maybe you have lost someone, you know, someone has passed away. Maybe you have lost a sporting match, maybe you have lost your favorite. Handbag, whatever it is. Right. Think about the times that you use lose and lost. Now, if we think about it in the context of losing weight. I can almost guarantee you that 98% of the time. Someone, maybe a little bit less, because there are circumstances where, you know, weight is released from the body and you know, it, it isn't. I have great health. It isn't all of you know, The best outcome, I suppose, for the individual. But let's talk about it in the context of when people are saying, I want to lose weight. If I hear that statement, I want to lose weight. What I hear is that. You want it back? You want to lose it, but eventually you want it back. You want it to rebound back to you. And that's not it that it can be guaranteed. Sure. That that's not what you actually mean. Right. However, when you say. You want to release something you want to release the weight? The belief you imprint is one of release and no return. So using the example of losing weight, I'm confident in saying, like I said, that majority of the time, it's actually a desire to release the weight and have it not come back than it is to lose it and have it return. Can you see how just this simple example really illustrates the way that our choice of words and phrases. I can. Impact our experience. They can impact the beliefs that we have. They can impact our perspective. And if we are saying to ourselves, you know, losing the, using this example, You know, I want to lose weight. We are essentially. Telling our subconscious and really deeply implanting into our subconscious that we want to, you know, Have it leave us, but we want it to come back. We want it to rebound back. So your actions and your behaviors and your patterns will reflect that. Right. So, this is why it's so, so important. Now another one I see all the time. And also let me just say, these are things that I used to, you know, phrases and words that I used to say. And use myself. So this is not me being high and mighty of like, oh my God, you know, everyone else's wrong. This used to be me. And this is why I know. This is true six line experience, right? I'm a four six in human design and the six line. The first 30 years of life, we go through a phase. You know, we are really in that third line energy and go through a phase of trial and error and really collecting wisdom, learning so many things. And it was all throughout that time that I was using language that wasn't serving me and now, you know, coming on the roof, I have the perspective and I have the awareness of how that wasn't serving me and, you know, have made shifts to shift that language. So back to the list. Another one that I see car. Quite a lot, is the words or phrase. I can't. Now, commonly, this phrase is used in relation to, you know, for example, I can't wait to see you or I can't wait for X event. There's something you can't wait for. Right. Now, this one is a little bit more sneaky because. It's often said with, you know, this excitability, right? You. I can't wait to see you. There's this excitability about it. Yet the words don't reflect the feeling. So saying I can't, it isn't really true because the reality is you can, you can wait, you might not want to, however you can. So instead, how do you really feel. Like, this is where we have the opportunity to really sit with and pay attention to how we really feel. So maybe it's, I'm really excited to see you next week. I'm really looking forward to X. Any time you use the words I can't. It cements you deeper into the limiting beliefs instead of expensive beliefs. So it really affirms to your subconscious that you can't. So, of course, like I mentioned, with the lose verse release scenario. If you're, if that's what you're affirming to your subconscious, your behaviors, your patterns, your perspective, your mindset is going to reflect that. So, therefore of course the results are not going to be the results that actually you, you really want. And you kind of wondering why they're not happening. It's these little things that can give you insight as to why. So when you catch yourself saying I can't. At whatever that might be, get curious and ask yourself, is that true? Because it's rare that you can't. It is often that you one don't want to potentially it's maybe it's not a priority. And it can sometimes be a little bit challenging to admit what it is, right. You know, maybe it's something that you don't want to do. It's like I can't come to X event. Well, maybe it's the fact that you actually could, you could go to that event. However your priority right now is to create. You know, some rest to really recharge your body because you've had a big week and you just don't feel that you have the extra capacity that it would take to attend this event. So. It's not that you can't come it's that, you know, maybe you have other commitments instead of, you know, maybe you don't want to say. You know, I can't like I can't come instead of saying, I can't come. Maybe you want to say. I am feeling really exhausted and I actually just need to stay in for the night. If you don't feel like you can say that that is so fine. All you need to say is for example, I have other commitments. Thank you so much for thinking of me. However, I have other commitments. I hope you have a great night. You don't owe anyone extra explanation when your communicating something, you know, that you either don't want to do is not a priority. Like it could be something that you know, is going to. Have you invest? Extra finances that maybe you don't have the capacity for right now. Right? And it's not that you can't it's simply that it's not a priority, right? So we really need to get present with what it is we truly think and truly feel, and truly need and communicate that. Now onto one of my. I want to say favorites. It's definitely not a favorite, but it's one that I just said it. I just said it. It's hilarious. I catch myself every now and again. The word is, but let's just get into it. The word is, but I remember watching a, it was a Dr. Phil episode years ago and he was interviewing someone and this person was talking and then they said, but, and continued to talk. And he pointed out that essentially what he was observing was. Everything that this person had said before the word. But. Was now null and void because what came after the, but was what they truly thought, what they truly believe, what they truly felt. Right. That was their truth. The truth comes after the, but. So, I mean, that's never left my brain. It's just something that's deeply ingrained. And when I heard it, I was like, that is so. True. It is so true. You know, we hear the word, but used in scenarios, like, you know, Like. I'm struggling, but I'll be fine. I need a break, but I'll just push through. I could do it, but I don't have time. Thank you. But it really wasn't that hard, you know, if someone's sort of complimenting you and you're like, yeah, thanks. But it really wasn't that hard or it really wasn't that big of a deal. Or, you know, it hurt, but I'll get over it. Maybe someone has done something to you and has hurt you, right. Or maybe you hurt yourself. You were clumsy and hurt yourself. And, you know, you're like it. But I'll get over it. And your dis like your. Really not acknowledging and taking on. What your feeling and what you're needing. Right. It is disregarding it. Now what's really interesting about the word, but is one how often it is. Misused is incredible. However, what I find really interesting, the more that I have observed one myself over the years using the word, but, and clients and, you know, family. Members of the public, like I was used to be I worked in the hair and beauty industry for a long time. So I've talked to people in multiple different scenarios and there's been so many times that the word but has been used. Right. And what I have come to realize is most of the time when we use the word, but it's an attempt to back away from vulnerability. It's an attempt to back away from vulnerability in the way that we. Attempt to not have to communicate our needs. Not have to communicate our feelings. Not have to, you know, set a boundary. Not have to tell the truth. Right. It is this. Attempt to keep ourselves safe, like, and it's a false sense of safety. Now I say this, like if I use myself as an example, I would say, but all the time when I lacked so much self-trust and self-worth. The moment that I expressed a want or a thought or a need. I felt uneasy and then I would find myself, you know, I'd would communicate it. And then instantly I would say, but, you know, add a, but to the statement. In an attempt to like diffuse my discomfort. Even, even if it meant abandoning myself, Which is wild to me. Right. It is wild. I no longer do that. And if I ever use the word. But like, obviously I can, you know, you can use it in conversation and whatnot. And I don't know, it's one of those things that I think is just so deeply ingrained. Sometimes it's hard to fully eradicate it. However, Every time I say the word, I hear myself say it. So I am constantly, you know, aware of how I'm using the word and if it is out of alignment, right. That's an interesting one. I definitely invite you to observe when you say, but, and then when you notice yourself saying that to then get curious, what are you avoiding? What about vulnerability? You know, what vulnerability are you avoiding? What are you what's making you feel uncomfortable or not safe? Right? You can tell us a lot. Our language can tell us a lot. If we pay attention. Now. The last one that I'm going to share to unpack a little bit more. And I actually want to do. Potentially. More of a episode on this, just, just this one. Because if we could unpack this in so many ways, This is a phrase that I hear. All the time. And I don't use this phrase anymore. I can't stand this phrase. And it's one that. It gets me activated. Because. I used it. A lot in my life and it gets me activated because I used it a lot as an excuse for others' behavior. In how they treated me and the experiences I had at the hands of other people. And that is why. I will not use this again. So. What this phrase is the, the really basic form of the phrase is just the way it is. You know, or there's the variation of, in my instance, Like I was just mentioning of, you know, when it pertains to other people is, oh, that's just the way they are. That's just them. No, no, no. Nope. That is not just the way they are. That is the way that they're choosing to be. That's the way they're choosing to show up. That is the way they are choosing to treat other people. Right. Just the way it is. If you catch yourself ever saying this, and once again, no guilt, no shame, no judgment. You can clearly hear that I've activated about it, but I've activated about it because of the experiences that my use of this phrase led me to have. And I don't want any other people to have those experiences as a result of something. So simple of. Not acknowledging what's actually happening. Right. And I know it's very late. It is very, very layered. I, I understand that. When I hear the phrase, just the way it is. The immediate question that comes up comes to my mind is, is it really just the way it is? Or is it how your choosing slash allowing it to be. Just the way it is. It carries this energy of defeat and avoidance. And if we carry this energy of defeat and avoidance for too long, it can be incredibly detrimental to our wellbeing and our belief systems. I invite you to ask yourself. If you find yourself, you know, saying that's just the way it is. That's just the way I am. That's just the way they are. I invite you to ask yourself, what are you avoiding? Are you avoiding setting a boundary? If that's just the way they are. Are you avoiding setting a boundary because you're concerned about what you might receive as a result of setting that boundary. You avoiding your own. Emotional landscape, emotional challenges, something that you have not yet processed by saying that's just the way you are. That's just the way I am. You know, that's just me. What are you avoiding? It could be as simple as you saying. Oh, no, that's just the way I am. I have. That's why it's always been right. That's just the way I am. And it is a result of avoiding your potential. It is a practice. And. Behavior of holding yourself back.'cause it's really easy to just, you know, submit to, oh, that's just the way it is. It's always been that way. You know, That's just the way I am. Right. It is so easy just to admit defeat. And just go, you know what? I don't have an enemy to deal with that. So I'm not going to. And when you do this, like I said before, we carry the energy of defeat and avoidance for too long, it will be, it will be detrimental to our wellbeing and our belief systems. And I believe systems are what impact the action we take. The people we surround ourselves with. The way that we live our lives, the quality of our lives. It impacts so much. So this is one that I, I mean, I employ you to sit with as we've, you know, all of them. It is just something that. Doesn't serve you to go. It's just the way it is. And there will be times where you can't change a situation. Right. You don't have the ability, the access, whatever it is to change a situation, right. Someone I'm in. Let's use. Something that's happening in my life at the moment. A beautiful family member of mine is has Alzheimer's. And. I can't change that diagnosis. Right? This is an example of me using the words I can't in, in truth. It is true. I can't change that diagnosis. What I can do. Instead of saying that's just the way it is. I can choose to change my perspective. I can choose to see it in a new light. And I think a great example of this actually is a piece that I wrote on my sub stack. All around how often we meet again. And there's this shift that I had with this Alzheimer's diagnosis, this family member And I mean, this family member is incredibly. Incredibly close to me. So I knew that instead of going, oh, that's just the way it is. That's just, you know, it's the way it's going to be. I can't do anything about it. I actually had an opportunity to shift my perspective. And. I really could have got stuck and there will be times when I find myself, you know, really in the deep end of, oh my God. This person doesn't recognize me. They already forget my name sometimes. They get there. We're running through it, you know, a few other names sometimes before they get there, but they get there. I really could seat in that, but. Oh, that's funny. I'm using the word, but there we go. I'm just going to pick my, catch myself on the words and I'm going to do it actively and vocally you'll just hear me go. Yep. Okay. There it is. Because it's not my truth. Right? What's on the other side of this, but is my truth. I instead have seen. An opportunity to. Look at it as a beautiful opportunity of how many times we get to meet again. In this life. I get to meet this family member. You know, when they forget me, because it, it is bound to happen. I'm not naive. I, it is going to happen to some degree at some point. So instead of just succumbing to that, I have shifted my perspective and my new belief is what a gift it is that we get to meet each other again and again, in this live. And until this life for them is complete. And then, you know, maybe in another life, because I've lived many with my family members. Just a simple swap like that, a simple perspective shift. It might not be. Setting a boundary. It might simply be your perspective, right? So let's. Dive a little bit more into maybe the positive side of it. And like that was, it was a little bit. Deep, let's say. It's time to swap the suffering for the super bloom, because I am all about leaving, leading and creating from our super bloom. SweetSpot. It is the most delicious space. We did not come here to suffer and to. Live lives feeling depleted like, and in pain, like that's, you know, yes, we experienced these things in our life, but that's not meant to be our consistent state. Right. So time to swap the suffering for the super bloom. Now, like I mentioned earlier, Awareness comes before change. So with everything I've shared, be so kind to yourself. And never underestimate the change of a single word or phrase. These changes take time. So if you find yourself using words and phrases that you now see are keeping you stuck and anchored in limiting beliefs. And it's in a sense of suffering. Make it a practice to swap them out in the moment and to bolster yourself towards your super bloom, right? This is a bolstering practice to observe your language. And when you hear yourself use a phrase or a word that doesn't serve you, that isn't true. That isn't honest. Just shift it. In that moment. It is as simple as that. It is a practice. It's like a muscle you've really got to exercise the muscle. And you can eventually, like, you may still find yourself saying these things. I do. Like I've said, but a couple of times in this episode already, right. Yet I catch myself and I choose like a toonie and then I go, okay. You know, sort of like, how did I use that? And if it was necessary, I changed the narrative. Right. I changed the word. So same thing for you. So. I'm going to leave you with. Some swaps for the words and phrases that I shared above. So. Instead of lose. If you don't want to back, if you've been talking about, you know, I want to lose a little bit of weight. How about you swap it for release. I want to release some weight. I want to release some stress. I want to release anything and everything that isn't serving me to move closer to my supervisor. Sweet-spot. Right. Another one. As opposed to. You know, in opposite of lose would be let go. Or shed. So they're just some examples instead of lose. You know, maybe your releasing or letting go you're shedding. Right? Instead of, but. My favorite swap for, but. Is, and the reason it is end is because if. The more that you catch yourself saying the word, but, and if you pick up that, you're about to say it and you stop yourself and you go to use the words, the word, and instead. Is actually a really interesting. Way to see if what you were going to say is true, right? If you were being honest, prior to the, but if you were telling your truth prior to the bot or not, Because there are times where, you know, you believe true things. There are two truths, like two truths can exist at once. Right? It's about you owning it. Right. So using the word and. Instead of like, let's use the example of, you know, you've been invited to an event. I would love to, but I can't. I would love to, and I am going to decline this time. I appreciate you so much for thinking of me and inviting me. I have some other commitments or, you know, I'm taking a time just, I'm taking the night for myself just to rest and, you know, recharge. Brilliant. Amazing. It is communicated exactly what your needs are, what your truth is and what your actions are going to be. Right? Nope. No big deal. Nothing. Another couple instead of, but is yet. Although, and that's it. So maybe you have shared a statement and you don't fully believe in the statement or you, it might've been true at one point in time, but it's not now right. You could say that said, you know, you have your statement that said, what is actually true. And current is insert the rest of the statement, right? Now, instead of, I can't try, I'm excited or, you know, insert whatever it is you're actually feeling. My priority right now is X. So maybe another time. Thank you anyway. And then instead of just the way it is, Allow yourself to seat with what you might be avoiding feeling or processing. Or taking action on. It is more of an observational because it's really just the way it is. There is always opportunity there for. More honesty, more truth, more vulnerability. You know, obviously we're already safe for you to be vulnerable. We do that in safe places. Now I would love to invite you into an intuitively you session. These are one-on-one sessions that I offer my clients and they are so beautiful and so transformative. They are a blend of a hybrid of coaching human design reading. Intuitive rating and a little bit of energy healing and that as well. So. They are really accustomed to you as an individual where you're at and where you're headed. So I work with clients who I'm working on, more personal things that are going on for them at the moment, some clients, we work on elements of their business, whatever it might be for you. I invite you. If you feel called, if you feel like you need that extra level of support, maybe you would love my projected perspective to, you know, see and observe sort of what's going. And highlight for you where some blocks are, where some stagnancy is and how you can shift that. So you can become even more magnetic so that you can get to that super bloom sweet spot and create and lead and live in a way that just feels so nourishing and so delicious and where you feel like you can breathe. I'm all about breathable life, breathable, business, all of it. So if you feel called to book yourself a session, I will leave it in the show notes below. You can find more information there. And if you have any questions from today's episode, as always, there is an AMA form in the show notes where you are able to ask a question or, you know, if you've. Had a little bit of an aha moment. And you're also more than welcome to share that with me there too. And if you share where I can contact you, your for example, your Instagram handle. I will reach out to you personally, to let you know where I have answered your question. Now the questions. When I answer them, they are on any one of my channels where I share. So it could be on Instagram. It could be here on the podcast, or it could be. In my emails, it could be on sub stack. But nine times out. of 10, it will always be I where you can find it publicly. So obviously with my email list, you need to be a member of that email list as well. So I'm going to leave that there for you today. That was a lot of deliciousness for you to absorb. And I'm going to leave you with one reminder. With all of this. Please be kind to yourself. This is not a time to beat yourself up. Even if your ego might want you to, this is a time to give yourself grace and compassion, because like I said, numerous times throughout this episode, without awareness, we cannot create change and you cannot build really strong, beautiful awareness coming from a place of criticism, judgment and shame and guilt and all of those things. So please, because. Be kind to yourself today and every other day. And I look forward to dropping in with another episode for you very soon.

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